When your marriage is ending, there are many important things to consider. The changes that will occur may not be easy; however, there are things that you can do to prepare yourself that will minimize the potential negative impact that may occur.
The first step is to create a list of your goals and interests: explore your financial, vocational, and personal/emotional goals. This will help to provide you with clarity and will guide you in your decision making throughout your divorce process.
When exploring your goals and interests, it is important to keep an open mind. Finances are often a very complicated aspect of any marriage. You may or may not have dealt with your finances prior to your marriage ending. Determining your financial and vocational goals and interests is extremely important. Things that are important for you to consider include:
1) Will you be able to maintain your current lifestyle? If not, what changes will need to be made?
2) Do you want to or will you be able to remain in your home or will you need to move?
3) At what age will you be able to retire?
4) Is there a new career path that you would like to explore?
5) What do you need to learn about investment strategies?
6) How can you keep the costs of the divorce down?
In addition to financial and vocational goals, it will be important for you to consider your personal and emotional goals and interests, often the most crucial in regard to a divorce. Things that are important to consider include:
1) Resolving the divorce issues with dignity.
2) Keeping your divorce issues private.
3) Maintaining a respectful relationship with your ex-spouse.
4) Maintaining a good relationship with your mutual friends.
5) Settling the divorce in a way that is consistent with your religious or spiritual values.
6) Becoming less frightened.
7) Beginning the process of healing.
Regardless of what your goals and interests may be throughout the divorce process, it is important to recognize what you want and need as an individual. Although the divorce process may not be easy, consider your goals and interests to make the process easier.